I am posting the below excerpt found on http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/ since it is well said about Complex PTSD.
Complex Post-Traumatic-Stress-Disorder is more than experiencing just one traumatizing event, and even once is enough to shake up our lives. But when someone experiences trauma after trauma after trauma, often from different sources and at different times in one's life, the symptoms stick longer, and may even seem like the norm.
Why is this important? Because many people misunderstand how a person suffering from Complex PTSD thinks and feels. Often times, they are labeled as "crazy," "bi-polar," or even with a "personality disorder." These titles may seem true to the one who states them, but truthfully, they are wrong. Also, doing so only dismisses the sufferer's very real mental health issues that are actually treatable.
Why is this important to our blog? Because children experience traumas too. They are even less equipped to handle the stress that comes from high-conflict divorces, parent alienation, hostile aggressive parenting, and other traumas, some of which may be considered typical childhood character building experiences such as standing up to a bully.
If we adults dismiss the impact of trauma on kids, we may contribute to generating adults who live in constant emotional pain. The below excerpt will be an example of what that may look like:
Complex PTSD sufferers have abandonment/betrayal fears.
When betrayed by people we love, the pain is so intense and the fear it creates is palpable and intense.
Most people will fail to understand the complexity of emotions, the belief systems it reactivates, the shame and the fear, unless they are complex trauma survivors themselves.
The rejection and abandonment depression feeds into the grieving, making it more intense.
It is especially hard, when the people were people we loved, trusted and continue on in their lives with no remorse, no empathy for the consequences of their actions and if they are narcissists or sociopaths, they will manipulate others into further abandoning us.
This lack of empathy, is so alien to those of us with empathy and compassion, who love deeply, so it causes painful confusion and is hard to bare, again feeding into this depression and intensity of grieving.
Often, all we want is love, understanding, honesty, loyalty.
When we get the opposite, it is like someone ripping out our hearts and stomping all over it, than walking away without even a backward glance.
If you relate to this at all, please know I do understand, and while the world may think 'oh just move on', that is not how it works for us and it is okay for us to feel this, there are real reasons for this, no matter how many don't understand.
I do understand.
♥ ♥ ♥
When betrayed by people we love, the pain is so intense and the fear it creates is palpable and intense.
Most people will fail to understand the complexity of emotions, the belief systems it reactivates, the shame and the fear, unless they are complex trauma survivors themselves.
The rejection and abandonment depression feeds into the grieving, making it more intense.
It is especially hard, when the people were people we loved, trusted and continue on in their lives with no remorse, no empathy for the consequences of their actions and if they are narcissists or sociopaths, they will manipulate others into further abandoning us.
This lack of empathy, is so alien to those of us with empathy and compassion, who love deeply, so it causes painful confusion and is hard to bare, again feeding into this depression and intensity of grieving.
Often, all we want is love, understanding, honesty, loyalty.
When we get the opposite, it is like someone ripping out our hearts and stomping all over it, than walking away without even a backward glance.
If you relate to this at all, please know I do understand, and while the world may think 'oh just move on', that is not how it works for us and it is okay for us to feel this, there are real reasons for this, no matter how many don't understand.
I do understand.
♥ ♥ ♥
By Healing From Complex Trauma and Ptsd/cptsd
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